Monday, October 20, 2014

Great is Thy Faithfulness

Those of you that have been reading our blog since we adopted Dima may remember that Dima has an older brother who still remains in Ukraine.  I am not going to go into any personal details about Dima's older brother but let's call this young man "Justin".  The first time I heard anything about "Justin" was during our adoption hearing in Kremenchuk.  It was then that Eric and I officially petitioned to adopt Dima and it was then that I committed to pray for "Justin" every day.  I was also hopeful that someday I would find him for Dima's sake.  One of the many days that we did paper chasing in Ukraine we got stuck in a traffic accident right outside of the little town where "Justin" was living.  A few months after we returned home to the States from Ukraine I wrote a letter to "Justin" and despite even having the address of where he had been last residing, I chickened out.

As time passed I continued to pray for the brave young man who took such good care of his little brother, my son, and never lost hope that someday, someday we could make contact.  Then things began to look unsettled in Ukraine.  My heart was saddened to hear that a country that I loved was in turmoil.  More often than not my mind would also wonder if "Justin" was safe.  Back in March I created an account on European Facebook and began to search for Dima's older brother.  Then I found him.  I knew it was him.  Contact was then made by some lovely ladies who knew "Justin" and one of the families had even hosted him in the United States last Christmas!   Without hesitation I sent a friend request to the young man for whom I prayed for over 2 years and he accepted.  I also learned that he was in need of a family of his own.

Our family was deep in the depths of adopting YunYun so it was not really even a consideration that we could have adopted "Justin" at that time.  So I gave it all to the Lord.  I prayed.  I prayed with friends.  I asked for prayer for him from our church.  I also patiently waited for him to make contact with me personally so that he could know that his little brother was safe, loved, and very happy.  Before I knew it Elijah and I were in China and I had to focus on my new daughter.  Deep down, however, I felt somewhat guilty inside that we were not adopting "Justin" and I wanted more than anything to help him find a family.  I began to put the word out among my friends in the adoption community in hopes that someone would choose to open their hearts and home to an amazing young man who deserves the same love and happiness that his little brother now has.

But allow me to back up for a moment.  While Elijah and I were in China we had the opportunity to meet three other families who were adopting from the same orphanage as our daughter.  Their boys and our daughter were all very close with one another.  YunYun loves her little buddies so much and still, to this day, talks about them, looks as their pictures, and is thrilled when new pictures of her buddies are posted on Facebook.  But there was one family with whom I had a divine appointment.  A family, whose daughter sparked a desire in their hearts to adopt an older brother.

You see, while I was in China struggling with emotions of a new daughter who was traumatized and feelings of guilt over a boy who would never be part of our immediate family, I was actually meeting "Justin's" future family.  One of the families, the "K Family", was destined to be "Justin's" family!  God knew my heart, heard my prayers (and that of so many others!), and He remained faithful to us all!  He remained especially faithful to a young man who so rightfully deserves a family.  The parents of one of my daughter's very best little friends will be "Justin's" family!!  Our families will now be forever connected through the miracle of adoption and faith.  My son, Dima, can now rejoice that the big brother who loved and cared for him will now be in a great family; my daughter, YunYun, can rejoice that her best little buddy will be the younger brother of her younger brother!

All of that being said, I have offered to help this fantastic family with their fundraising efforts.  Ukrainian adoptions take about 7 months (give or take) and they have only been home for 3 months with their new son from China.  I look forward to sharing their story as they allow and help them graft my son's older brother into their family.  Will you join me in lifting both "Justin" and the "K Family" in prayer?

In the meantime I leave you all with one of my most favorite songs…


Monday, October 13, 2014

A Long Overdue Update

It has been far too long since I last updated this blog so I am now going to make an attempt to get back into the saddle.  I am pretty certain that many of you are wondering if Grace is even home and if so how things are going.  Grace, who prefers to be called YunYun, has been home for almost three months and overall doing quite well.  She turned 12 last month and is turning into quite the young lady spreading joy to most everyone she meets.  YunYun is adored by her family and she especially adores her daddy.  It blesses my heart to watch them interact and I am so thankful that she is finally home where she will have every opportunity in the world!

But allow me to back up.  I am not going to go into too much detail about our time in China as I doubt that YunYun wants every detail of her life displayed on the Internet, but I will share some of what we experienced.  Elijah and I loved China and enjoyed our time in that beautiful country.  We got to stand on the Great Wall of China on Elijah's 10th birthday, eat amazing food, be somewhat independent during some travel around China, and we learned to fully rely on God.

Our time in China once we met YunYun was challenging as our newest family member was completely thrown for a loop.  My heart was broken for my new daughter but I knew that God would make a way.  Poor YunYun was expecting a completely different situation and she had the most difficult decision to make of her entire life.  To trust me.  I was amazed by that young lady's resolve and bravery and I will never forget the pain in her eyes as we were leaving her native land.  But as of today, October 13, she is thriving in her new family.  She sees that we have nothing but her best interest at heart and want nothing more than to help her be the best that she can be.  YunYun is now in school in the fifth grade and making such great strides with her new language.  She is making friends, changing hearts, and showing others that people with special needs are not scary and have so much to offer the world.

YunYun is also teaching our family how to have grace and yes, even more patience.  I though maybe Dima had prepared us with the whole lesson in patience.  Nope!  YunYun has found a way to teach us about patience.  Upon our arrival back home in the States we had a rough time.  Quite honestly (and understandably) she viewed me as the "enemy".  Everything was a battle from what time we go to bed to what we will wear.  But I stood firm and she learned that being a child in a family means following the rules and being respectful.  I never once expected or demanded that she love me (or even like me!) but I did let her know that I require respect.  It took awhile, but I think we have learned that lesson.

Eric and I are so grateful to everyone who prayed for us, supported us financially, and to those who helped while Elijah and I were in China.  YunYun's new life would not have been possible without each and every one of you.  The Lord continues to bless us in ways we would never have expected and we are just so grateful for His faithfulness to both our family and YunYun.

In the coming weeks and months I hope to share more but things are different with YunYun.  Unlike Dima, YunYun is more private and shy.  I wish to respect that.

Thank you all once again.